Do you ever think about the courage it takes to let go?
These last several months, I’ve had a lot of really incredible adventures. If you follow me on social media, you’ve probably seen some of them. I feel super grateful for the opportunities, sometimes I have to pinch myself to believe it all. After I give myself a pinch, I also want to immediately hug the people who have made these adventures even more special 🤗.
So, this week, as I was watching the eulogies for former President George H.W. Bush, I was thinking about the power of the people in my life, and how these people have shown me the power of being truly present. It’s true, if you follow me, you see some of my most important people because you’ve also seen special times and people who make the event, opportunity, or occasion even more memorable. You see pictures, videos, or even crazy Boomerangs, and maybe you even begin to associate certain people with me, and look forward to seeing more posts from us 🤩. I know that’s true for me. I watch people’s posts, and I feel excited when incredible people join forces and share it with the world! I think in the end, people remember important events for sure, but the greatest memories come from the people who made YOUR event or even, more specifically, your life, important to them, too.
Social media can be a powerful way to celebrate your events AND your relationships.
I wasn’t alive when President Bush led our nation, in fact, I wasn’t even alive when his son, George was President. I’ve only ever known two Presidents in my lifetime, Obama and our current leader. Still, it seems like the measure of President Bush’s life wasn’t just in his time as President, but instead, in his time as a husband, daddy, grandfather, great grandfather, and friend. It’s like all of those roles were the most important parts of who he was as a human being. I just love that 💗. One granddaughter shared how she never even thought about her grandfather as President because to her, he was simply “Gampy,” -- someone who’d always put everything aside to make her feel important.
Although all of the eulogies for Bush were beautiful, it was the eulogy by James Baker, one of Bush’s closest friends for 60 years that stuck with me the most. I heard earlier, how Baker was there in President Bush’s final moments, and how he rubbed the President’s feet as a small gesture of love and comfort. I imagined this must have helped his friend feel heartbeeps in his final moments of life. It was one last act of humble service Baker could give his friend. I get heartbeeps just thinking how such a small act can be so giant in the heart of someone going to heaven💗.
My heart really beeps deeply for Baker. His lifelong friend isn’t here anymore, and I just know he will miss him so much. But, then I think about how beautiful it is to miss someone because of the love and memories they gave you. It’s like your life is richer from them, and so your memories are richer too. Baker described Bush as a “truly beautiful human being” -- someone who wasn’t known as a skilled speaker, but whose deeds were quite eloquent. I just love how this illustrates something I’ve heard my parents say to me again and again: actions speak louder than words.
Right now, my Grumps is in hospice. I’ve learned dying isn’t always easy. Sometimes it takes time. Lots of time. Sometimes people don’t understand the time it takes. It’s like when you say hospice people think the person will die immediately. But, everyone’s journey is their own, even when it’s time to die, and I think my Grumps might have some more thinking to do. His body has Parkinson’s, but his heart and his brain are free. He wants time to think and love and just be.
I’m sharing about this journey with my Grumps because I can’t capture how much my brain and heart feel in a simple post or tweet. But, it’s also a reminder for those who might think a person’s whole life is captured on social media. It’s not. There are so many parts of life that can’t be measured in a simple post or tweet. Sometimes some parts deserve more words; some that are public words, and some that just stay private.
Tonight, I’m thinking about how the Bush family measured George H.W.’s life in the stories they shared about him. I’m thinking of my Gram holding my Grumps’s hand. I’m thinking about the person who read my sad texts today and tried to cheer me up.
Some of you only know me as LivBit, but when you read this, you’ll know a little more about Liv. The kid who farts a lot. Sorry. It’s true 🤪. The kid who is always ready for another Pop Tart. Sorry. That’s true too. The kid who says I love you a lot. I’m not apologizing for that one. The kid who discovered this week who George H.W. Bush is, and whose heart feels changed forever from learning about his love. Not sorry. The kid who wishes very deeply her Grumps wasn’t hurting from Parkinson’s. No apology. The kid who lately has been wondering a lot about heaven. Only a little sorry if you’re the person who receives my texts on this one 😬. The kid who wishes to give the world more heartbeeps than heartaches. No need for a sorry here either.
I hope you read this blog and think a few things. First, I hope you think about the power of small acts, and how they can help someone through something hard. Give the hug. Say words that matter. Be present with a big smile. Be brave enough to show your feelings even if it means someone might hurt you. Remember your actions speak bigger than anything else. I hope you’re patient even when it’s hard, and you love with courage.
That’s what I’ve learned in the last few months. From all my adventures, the ones you see on social media, and the ones you don’t, I’ve learned it takes courage to love. And, it takes even more courage to let go💗.
Keep reading! Keep thinking! And, thank you for following LivBits.
12/11/2018 07:09:18 am
Liv. This is a beautifully written post that makes me sad and happy. I love how reflective you are about the world in a way that 99% of kids your age are not. I love how you express that social media is a small part of who we are. I am deeply saddened that your Grumps is ill. My aunt has Parkinsons and it is a difficult disease to watch someone go through. Love and hugs to you and your family. Wish I lived closer so I could give them in person. ox Jen
12/11/2018 06:27:11 pm
Olivia, just beautiful.
12/14/2018 04:46:49 pm
Oh, Liv. Thank you for your words of wisdom, especially "how beautiful it is to miss someone because of the love and memories they gave you. It’s like your life is richer from them, and so your memories are richer too." This is how I feel about missing Kipper.
12/15/2018 11:57:14 am
liv, thank you for making this blog. I look forward to every time you post something.Keep believing!
Leave a Reply.
Hi, I'm Liv and I am super excited to share my thinking with you!